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How To Live In The Moment Without Ruining It

August 20, 2019 in Happiness, Anxiety and Depression, The Tough Stuff - 4 min read
Have you ever been so happy that you literally stop right in the moment and get this sudden feeling of dread that something bad is about to happen? Asking yourself if there’s something you missed? Making a mental checklist 100 mph of all the possibilities. They might have a term for ruining the moment by overthinking but nevertheless, I’ve experienced that countless times and the posts and memes that I see on social media about the topic proves that it’s more common than you think.

Thoughts aren’t facts but sometimes they feel like they are and make you lose touch with what’s happening at the moment. Sometimes you can literally feel the weight of them on your shoulders. So much that you get used to being unhappy and that “if it’s one thing, it’s another” or “it is what it is” mentality.

If you’ve read my post about anxiety and panic attacks, you’ll know how debilitating they can be. Though it all stems from your mental, it can slowly start to take over your life if you don’t get a handle on it in the beginning. Thoughts aren’t facts but sometimes they feel like they are and make you lose touch with what’s happening at the moment. Sometimes you can literally feel the weight of them on your shoulders. So much that you get used to being unhappy and that “if it’s one thing, it’s another” or “it is what it is” mentality. Things can be going so well that you may forget for a moment but then it hits you. You remember how you’re used to feeling. This is the complete opposite and your happiness becomes a trigger which is pretty ironic. You consciously stop yourself from being happy because you think it’ll signal the universe to throw something horrific your way.
You aren’t crazy for feeling that way or even acting on it but if anything, this proves that you actually can have control over your happiness and any situation you’re in. That you can enjoy the moment self assured that it’s not the end of your world. It takes a good amount of practice but once you do the inner work needed to help you feel control again, you’ll be able to enjoy the moment instead of ruining it waiting for the bad to come. You waiting for it to come is enough for something bad to happen and you don’t want that. Now you’re probably thinking “Okay. So what’s some inner work I can do?” The answer is practicing mindfulness.
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Here 10 ways to live in the moment by practicing mindfulness.
1. Live in the present. Focus on what you’re doing at that exact moment. Breathe in. Then out. You’re alive. Take a look around your surroundings.
2. Choose to do something that’s fun. Make/order your favorite meal. Play a favorite album. Spend time with friends and family. It’s a good distraction.
3. Remember that you survived all the bad you’ve gone through so you’ll survive whatever comes next so no need to dwell in it.
4. Let go of the past instead of reliving it because you psychically can’t. It happened, you learned from it and have to move on. Once you accept that, it won’t have control over you.
5. Remember that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be here.
6. Accept the things you can’t control. Like other people’s actions and words. The time but that doesn’t make them bad. Even if you have a negative thought. Allow it to come and go. Don’t grasp onto it.
7. Find things you can control. You can control your attitude.
8. Accept that you’re a work in progress and complete at the same time. You may not be where you’d like to be but you still have a bunch of life ahead of you. You have so much more to experience and growth to do to better yourself. That’s good news!
9. Have something positive to look forward to. Are you going somewhere fun in a few days? Meeting up with a loved you haven’t seen in a while? Doing something you’ve always wanted to do? Those are all good feels and reminds you that there’s always some good even if there’s bad.
10. But don’t think too much into the future. This brings a lot of anxiety because you don’t know what the future holds. Don’t get too caught up with what could be. Just be.
I know it’s easier said than done but this is a start. Pick one to actively practice everyday. Once you master it, you can go down the list and before you know it, you’ll be living and enjoying the present instead of dreading the past and/or future. You’re stronger than you think. This too shall pass.

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