It’s unrealistic and in a way dismisses the person’s current feelings by thinking that these unauthentic approaches will magically help when they don’t even the scratch the surface of your pain.
You can’t just get over it. It takes time to to be able to put a finger on it. Much less, face how you feel and be proactive about feeling better.
10 Way To Self Heal So You Can Feel Better On Your Own Time And Terms:
- Give yourself space. Like mentioned above, when you aren’t feeling your best, it’s easy to let what people think you should get to you. Distancing yourself from the noise and help ground yourself.
- Give yourself time. It’s helpful to not pressure yourself to be impulsive or you might end up doing or saying something you don’t mean and might regret. Be gentle with yourself. You don’t have to figure out how you feel the moment something happens. Most times, it take a while for emotions to sink in.
- Speak to someone you trust. It can be a family member, friend or therapist. If you feel like you are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else, please seek help as soon as possible.
- Decide what healing means to you. What do you plan to get out of your healing? How will you know that you have healed? These are important questions you need to ask yourself and then answer. It’ll give you some idea of the direction you need to go.
- Find an outlet that works for you to heal. This differs from person to person as well. For example, after I give myself time to think things out, I let it all out on paper, organize my thoughts, decide how I feel about it and then make a plan to take action to feel better. For someone, that means crying for hours, days. For someone, they try to eat their sadness away. For someone, they find a creative outlet. For someone, they have to seclude themselves for a while.
- Keep active and exercise. It’s true. It will promote blood flow and the endorphins will make you feel so much better. You’ll think more clearly and being in shape never goes out of style.
- Eat healthy foods. “You are what you eat” and it’s true. By eating nutritious foods of protein, carbohydrates, fats, and fiber, you are healing your body from the inside out. Also drink lots of water.
- Get enough sleep. Don’t underestimate sleep in your life. Your body needs to rest to function at its best for you every day. Make time in your routine to sleep eight hours a day.
- Listen to your body. Your body is always talking to you. If you don’t feel well, stop and address it. Try to pinpoint why you feel the way you do. Stress is one of the biggest health deteriators.
- Do regularly check-ins. Don’t sue me but here’s a cliche that I live by “time heals all wounds.” Think about something that happened in your past that you never thought you would be able to get over but somehow you did. It happens because time passes no matter what and so will the feeling but only if you are mindful. Doing regular check-ins will help you measure your success. Especial since you did step four.