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Should You Post Your Relationship On Social Media?

Though social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter have been around for the past fifteen years, it wasn’t until Instagram that people started to see the power of social media. In less than ten years we have seen the effect that it has on a global level. Instagram provided something new. It’s more visual and easier to show your creativity. It’s an outlet to be your authentic self and attract people who like the same things you do. It can be for entertainment, inspiration, information or overall community. Some may say that YouTube was also a visual social media platform that allowed the same spectrum of authenticity, creativity and community but in my opinion, the rise of Instagram accelerated the use of YouTube. As Instagram users started to explore their craft, it was a no brainer to translate those talents to YouTube to grow their following on there as well.
People not only use social media to connect with others and showcase their creativity. They also use it to showcase their amazing lives. Well maybe it’s not always amazing. Though the concept “Instagram vs real life” has been coined to prove the misconceptions on social media, it is still a great way to build a relationship with others by allowing them into a piece of your life so they can get to know, like and trust you. To help with this some people share the good, bad and ugly to make themselves relatable to their audience.
However, you can easily get caught up in “flexing on the gram” when the likes, comments, and shares go up. Most of those are from nosey people but it’s an increase of number nevertheless and any normal person will use that as indication to keep doing what they’re doing. It seems like everyday there is a new viral video and through this we have seen the opportunities social media that has given the creator that change their life forever. But when is enough enough? Will you be able to seperate what you want to post from what your followers want you to post? To distinguish who you are from who they want you to be? Are you okay sacrificing the privacy in your personal life for it?
A big part of everyone’s life whether you have hundreds of thousands of followers or not is your family. It cannot be denied that you are the company you keep and social media is a great way to capture memories that can last a lifetime with people who mean the most. However it does have its cons when it comes to sharing moments with people who aren’t guaranteed to be around forever like friends and significant others.
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What are the cons about being sharing your personal relationship on social media?
It’s one thing to share something a little too soon in person and it’s another thing when you share something a little too soon on the internet because 1)more people see it, 2)most will feel obligated to ask and talk about it, 3)people will make their own judgements and opinions and 4)even if you delete it, it’s never really gone. I mean, I get it. If you’re happy and excited about something, of course you want to share it even if it’s prematurely but sharing a moment with someone you’re dating is on a whole new level. In the moment, you’re in your honeymoon phase and wanna show that off but how many times have you told or introduced your friends and family to someone you were dating but it didn’t work out and then they kept asking you about it? Imagine how that feels times ten when
you’ve told the Internet. I know a few of you has experienced this. It’s mentally and emotionally exhausting.
Actually sharing anything can be tricky because the only person you can truly be sure of is yourself. People grow, learn and sometimes that results in growing a part. Marriages can end up in divorce, family drama can break bonds decades old, misunderstandings can cause friendship breakups and miscommunication can cause relationship ones.
Actually sharing anything can be tricky because the only person you can truly be sure of is yourself. People grow, learn and sometimes that results in growing a part. Marriages can end up in divorce, family drama can break bonds decades old, misunderstandings can cause friendship breakups and miscommunication can cause relationship ones.
So what really are the pros about being public and sharing your personal relationship on social media?
1. You can post what you want people to see.
So far this post has been pretty negative and I don’t want it to be. I just want to be real with you guys. However, at the end of the day it’s just social media. Though it is not reality, the point of social media platforms are for you to be social in the moment. If we were all honest about what went on behind the scenes of at least 50% of our posts, we wouldn’t want to share them in the first place. How many times has a regular post about yourself/your opinion been misconstrued? Or you look back at a photo and wish things were still the way they used to be? Everyone goes through it. That’s the real reality and social media has got us overthinking and comparing ourselves way too much. It’s so easy to cloud our judgement and have our perceptions shaped by what people want us to see. I like the saying “Instagram is a highlight reel.” No one is going to post about something that makes them upset so if you’re in love and wanna show off your boo, do it girl.
2. Just because you post your relationship on social media does not mean that people know your relationship or are owed updates on it.
People may know who you’re dating because you posted them but they don’t know your chemistry. With the increase of YouTube couple channels and Instagram couples, we have seen countless times how accelerated their account growth can be because people see the outside and start to covet their relationship. However, with that comes this feeling of “you owe us” entitlement from their audience. Then the couple feels obligated to constantly provide content about their relationship to satisfy this need and keep their numbers high even if they may not be happy behind the scenes. And even then, your relationship can still be picked apart because outsiders don’t understand you and your partner’s dynamic. I can only imagine how stressful it can be on that large of a scale. A relationship can easily go from personal and free to business. Please keep some mystery to your relationship. Every post and story does not have to be about what you and your partner are doing. You don’t need to keep everyone updated. By doing this, it puts the power back in your hands so people don’t even have the ability to dissect your relationship because of the simply fact that you haven’t provided them with enough information to.
3. Just because you post your relationship on social media does not mean that you aren’t an individual.
You are still your own person. You were you before that person and God forbid if you guys break up, you will be you after them. Like mentioned above, if you aren’t careful your social media account can become a jointed one and people will only be able to see you as a part of an item instead of your own person. Even without social media, it is so easy to get caught up in a relationship and forget who you are. The longer you do, the harder it is to distinguish between you and us. It’s not worth the stress to. Continue to do and share what makes YOU happy to keep yourself grounded and if people can’t understand that, they don’t have your best intention at heart anyways.
4. Just because you post your relationship on social media does not mean that you have to post about or explain your breakup.
We’ve all been in relationships that we were happy in but still had breakups that weren’t as pretty. We’ve all have relationships that ended on good terms but we still don’t want to talk about. Hell, we’ve dated people who we’ve held at too high esteem before we got to really know them so things didn’t even get to the relationship stage. Long story short, no one is entitled to know what happened except you and the other person. You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone about why things didn’t last. You can delete the pictures and continue your life without feeling guilty about it cause it’s your life. You have the power. You are in control.
In conclusion…
Though there are serious cons about posting your relationship on social media, you are still in control about what about your relationship you post because at the end of the day, you and your partner are the only ones who really know what it consists of. Yes, the pressure of having to explain or prove yourself is inevitable but if you really don’t want to, you don’t have to. It’s up to you how you respond to it or if you want to respond to it at all. Social media is a place to be social so it makes sense if you want to share pieces of your life but it is not real life. No one will know the full picture. Whether it be good or bad. Whether you are putting up a facade or not because when the camera is off and reality hits, you are the only one who will have to live with it. It is still important to be mindful about what you post because some moments are simply best in the moment. Do whatever makes you happy but make sure you’re doing it for yourself and no one else.

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